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Your browser will ups moment to your requested content shortly. A relationship breakup, often referred to simply as a breakup, is the termination of an intimate relationship by any means other than death.

The act is commonly termed “dumping ” in slang when it is initiated by one partner. Rueckert argues with the works of Donald Winnicott that the ability to separate is an essentially healthy sign of emotional development and maturity. Once, a child has obtained closeness and attachment by his early caregivers, he or she is able to develop autonomy and identity. If children have not introjected the good and protective qualities of their parents, they will fear separation and break-ups. Several psychological models have been proposed to explain the process of a relationship breakup, many suggesting that ‘relationship dissolution occurs in stages’.

Lee proposes that there are five stages ultimately leading up to a breakup. Vaughan considered that the process of breakup was asymmetrical for initiator and respondent: the former ‘has begun mourning the loss of the relationship and has undertaken something tantamount to a rehearsal, mentally and, to varying degrees, experientially, of a life apart from the partner’. As a result, for Vaughan ‘getting out of a relationship includes a redefinition of self at several levels: in the private thoughts of the individual, between partners, and in the larger social context in which the relationship exists’. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. Breakups Before Marriage: The End of 103 Affairs”.